„I'm not getting enough game time“
That hurts, and it's okay that it hurts. Little playing time doesn't mean you're bad – but you want to know where you stand. That's a legitimate demand.
What's happening there
The problem with being on the bench is rarely the bench itself: it's the uncertainty. As long as you don't know what the coach sees, your mind fills the gap with the worst explanations. Two things help: taking back control over what's in your hands – and resolving the uncertainty in a calm conversation.
Do it now.
Three process goals for your game
- 1Write down what you can influence in the game – not goals, not playing time.
- 2Choose three things that are always in your control: communication, running lines, first touch, retreat speed.
- 3Make each goal measurable: 'I'll communicate in every defensive situation' instead of 'more effort'.
- 4After the game, or after your 6 minutes: tick it off, honestly.
- 5After four games: look at patterns. This is your talking point with the coach.
Briefly feel it out
Nothing is saved. Just for you, 30 seconds.
Your next mini-step
Prepare what you want to say to your coach in four sentences and find a quiet moment before the next training session.
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