After training, your child says: "I'm too stocky for my position" or compares their body to other athletes online. Before you disagree or offer meal ideas, ask: Where is that coming from, and how is it making you feel? Body critique doesn't need to continue at home.
See the person, not measurements and rankings
Avoid comments about weight, shape, or other young people's bodies. Even well-meaning praise for physical changes can turn appearance into a constant topic. Showing interest in their sporting actions is different: good communication, a smart run, or helping out in defence. None of that implies a judgment on how a body should look.
- “Where does the idea come from about how you’re supposed to look for this position?”
- “How do you feel when comments like that are made?”
- “You don’t have to compare your body to images of others to be taken seriously here.”
Supporting everyday routines instead of policing food
During long days of school and training, doing the food shop, preparing meals and eating together can be practical ways parents can help. Ask about everyday hurdles and preferences. This site does not provide meal plans, portion sizes, calorie targets or weight goals. Individual questions about nutrition and athletic load should be directed to qualified professionals with experience in youth sport.
- Does their daily routine actually leave time to sit down and eat?
- What preparation makes school, travel, and training easier?
- Are comments within the team or on social media causing stress right now?
- Does my child want a confidential, professional person to talk to?
Addressing comments made at the club
If the coaching staff comment publicly on body shape or demand changes, note down the exact wording with your child and address the issue in a safe, private conversation. Health matters are not discussed in the team chat. Personal details should only be shared with those who need them to provide support. Do not introduce dietary changes or supplements on suspicion.
Out of the game
After watching a highlight video, your child says: "I wish I looked like that." You reply: "A short video doesn't show someone's everyday life. What caught your eye? If you have questions about your body or how to fuel it, we can speak to someone who actually specialises in that."
Seek support early if you're concerned
If thoughts about body image and food increasingly dominate everyday life, mealtimes become stressful, or physical symptoms appear, seek advice from a doctor or qualified specialist. You don't need to make a diagnosis or prove changes with numbers. Address specific observations calmly, without blame or trying to diagnose the cause yourself. Your GP or paediatrician can work through the next steps with you.
Official guidance and support services are available at Federal Institute for Public Health. This is an external specialist service, not a meal plan from this platform.
Remember this
Don't fuel comments about body shape, make sure they get proper meals, and put personal worries into professional hands.