You don't need to spot a diagnosis before seeking advice. What matters are noticeable changes, how much your child is struggling, and their safety. One disappointing evening is very different from everyday life becoming steadily harder. A fixed waiting period is no safeguard.
What you can describe for an initial conversation
- What has changed compared to their normal daily routine?
- When did you first notice it, and is it getting stronger?
- Are school, friends, or family also affected?
- What is your child actually saying, and what is just your assumption so far?
- Are there signs of risk or harm?
Offering support transparently
- “I’ve noticed you’re hardly doing the things that usually matter to you. I’m worried about you.”
- “I don’t know what’s causing it. That’s why I’d like to get professional advice.”
- “You don’t have to tell me everything. We can find someone suitable to talk to together.”
For physical symptoms, your GP or paediatrician is the best first port of call. Adolescent mental health services and family counselling can also offer clear guidance. Check availability rather than promising a quick appointment. Sports psychology can help with performance issues, but it's no substitute for medical or clinical care.
In immediate danger
If there is immediate danger in Germany, call 112. Stay with your child as far as it is safe to do so, and arrange professional help. If you have serious concerns about safety, seek qualified support without delay. Never use a sports exercise as a substitute.
Out of the game
Your child won't open up, but says: "I can't take this any more." – "I hear you, and I take that seriously. You don't have to explain everything right now. We're going to get some help today." Your concern doesn't need to be debated or proved in a family argument.
Remember this
Describe specific observations, look for support together, and don't wait around if there's danger.